A lot of people ask this question: “Is it possible to forgive and forget?” Or, “I still remember how deeply this person hurt me, does that mean I haven’t forgiven them?” What they are really asking is, “How do I deal with the negative memories that pop up every now and then, even though I … More I have forgiven. Truly, I have…But how do I forget?

Now, if that title alone offends you, then you most certainly need to read this. So please hear me out. I don’t remember a time in my life when I was not described as “strong,” and/or “independent.” And it always felt good. (Of course it did.) It felt good to know that I could – … More The Downfall of the Strong, Independent Woman

“Lord, if it is you, ask me to come!” Do you remember that account in the bible of Peter stepping out to walk on water after he saw Jesus do the same? Good. Now, let me “re-write” it a little bit to illustrate my point. Here we go. 🙂 Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really … More Be quick to help, not criticise, your spouse

I got married almost two years ago at the age of 36. By most people’s standards, that’s considered late. Not to talk of throwing in the “African” factor. You know those phone calls or conversations with your mother that begin with, “My daughter, is there someone in the picture?” Or, the many times she would … More SINGLES, if you’re not happy and content now, you will not be happy and content in marriage

I remember visiting a friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in years. This friend was very visible on Facebook regarding her kids. She would go on and on about how they were a constant source of joy, always perfectly behaved and always smiling. So when I visited her I was actually looking forward to […]

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I remember visiting a friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in years. This friend was very visible on Facebook regarding her kids. She would go on and on about how they were a constant source of joy, always perfectly behaved and always smiling. So when I visited her I was actually looking forward to … More Don’t get trapped by the “Greener Grass Syndrome”

It was a beautiful summer’s day several years ago and I was sitting on a park bench with one of my closest friends at the time. Externally, my life looked great. I was doing particularly well in my career and finances. But on the inside, it was a different story. My life was like that … More How I broke free from a negative past

Hey there! I read this great article and it made so much sense, I had to share! Many of us approach marriage or relationships with a 50-50 (or 60-40, or even 90-10!)  mentality. “You do your part and I’ll do mine.” This attitude is responsible for a lot of the challenges and unhappiness we experience. … More Why a 50/50 relationship is a bad relationship

This week I bring you the fourth step towards creating the marriage of your dreams. Missed Steps 1, 2 or 3? Click here to catch up. Step 4: Put a Guard on your Mouth & Mind! Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23 NLT The word “heart” … More Step 4 to the Marriage of your Dreams: Put a Guard on your Mouth & Mind!

This week I bring you the third step towards creating the marriage of your dreams. Missed Steps 1 and 2? Click here to catch up. Step 3: Look inward, not to your spouse, for change. It is a little known fact that you don’t get in life what you want. You get in life who you are! … More 7 Steps to the Marriage of Your Dreams (Part 3)