This week I bring you the second step towards creating the marriage of your dreams. Missed Step 1? Click here to catch up. Step 2: Treat your time like a valuable currency. Spend it on what counts! Distraction is the biggest killer of progress. Time is the most valuable gift we have all been given, free … More 7 Steps to the Marriage of Your Dreams (Part 2)
Did you know that the state of your marriage today is the sum total of the seeds (thoughts, words, actions, choices) you sowed in the last 3 to 12 months? That means in as little as three months to a year, you can experience noticeable changes and progress in your marriage if you begin the … More 7 Steps to the Marriage of Your Dreams (Part 1)
I read a heartbreaking story a few days ago. A young man went to his doctor for a medical consultation. During the appointment, he became overwhelmed with emotions and broke down crying in the doctor’s office. He then confided in the doctor that his job working away from home was having a serious impact on his … More Don’t air your dirty laundry in public
You complete me. We’ve all heard it. Ever since the dashing Tom Cruise used that great line to express his undying love for Renee Zellweger. (By the way, Tom Cruise was once my Hollywood crush 👌🏽😂😎) You complete me. It sounds like a great thing to say to one’s spouse. And many couples have indeed … More Feeling unhappy and unfulfilled in your relationship? This might be why.
I noticed my daughter hurrying through the house. Me: Why are you rushing? Slow down. Daughter: I’m going to do what you told me to. I forgot to do it earlier. Me: Yeah, so? It’s okay, you don’t have to rush. Daughter: Well mum, I didn’t want you to shout at me for not doing … More Unlearning some of the African parenting habits I inherited
A couple of nights ago, my husband, Uvie, and I were looking through some of my old pictures from as far back as when I was about 5 years old. There was a huge smile of admiration on his face with lots of “ooh, you were so cute,” and “aw, my wife is so beautiful.” (The man really does … More Dear wife, I married you slim (The challenges of the expanding waistline after marriage)
Women are intuitive. We just know stuff, deep within, even when there are no facts to back them up. A woman will usually “see” the outcome of a situation long before it happens. Yet, I haven’t met a woman who has not experienced some level of frustration because her husband is not listening to her … More What to do when your husband doesn’t listen to you
I slept, but my heart was awake, when I heard my lover knocking and calling: “Open to me, my treasure, my darling, my dove, my perfect one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.” But I responded, “I have taken off my robe. Should I get dressed … More If you respond to conflicts this way, you’re exposing your marriage to the destroyer
African married men tend not to wear their wedding rings beyond the early years – or even months – of marriage. Of course this is merely my observation and does not in any way represent all African men. But it got me thinking about the possible consequences of being married but ring-less. Recently my husband got … More Why do a lot of African men abandon their wedding rings?