My family and I were on holiday recently. It was in one of those resorts where there are a hundred and one activities at your disposal. Literally. After two days of active and constant engagement from dawn to dusk, I was completely activity-ed out and desperately in need of some “me” time. When the rest of the gang wanted to go skating, I decided it was not particularly tasteful for a grown woman to repeatedly fall on her bottom and quickly took that as my chance to get away for some alone time.
Back at our gloriously empty chalet, I was like a kid in a candy store, excited at the prospect of peace and quiet and the art of nothingness. I was barely settled into a reclined seat with a lovely cup of tea when I heard a knock on the door. No, it can’t be. They’re back? Hmm mmh. They’re back! 😤 Husband-dearest walked in with the kids and said to me: “We came back early because it wasn’t the same without you.” Can you imagine? I didn’t know whether to be flattered or upset. To laugh or to cry. 😂😩 So I smiled and went to play with my family, silently reminding myself that it was after all a privilege to have that opportunity.
People who are extroverted can’t quite grasp the concept of an introvert’s “alone time.” After the umpteenth “Are you okay?” from my husband whenever I fell quiet or went upstairs to be by myself, I knew something had to be done. Fast! Lol.
Thankfully I came across a very helpful article, 14 things introverts wish you understood about them, and guess what was number 1 on the list?
1. Just because we’re not talking doesn’t mean we’re upset or depressed. Introverts tend to be thinkers rather than talkers. We don’t enjoy making small talk and we prefer to speak only when we really have something to say. If we go quiet on you, don’t take it personally.
So I shared it with husband-dearest. To my surprise, reading the article gave him much more clarity and assurance than I had been able to articulate. “Wow. This is very enlightening. Thank you.” I remember him saying. And I believe having those simple facts about my personality has gone a long way in helping him understand and relate with me better. Of course, he still forgets sometimes and asks, “Are you okay?” 😀
Please feel free to drop me a line if you have questions or comments.
Photo Credit: Telegraph
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